"There are some who really think that White or non-Black women are superior," Brooks says.
"I don't want these men anyway, because I'm not trying to be a part of somebody's intellectual development as a partner." Many of the sisters in her circle take the fact that some Black guys prefer women who don't look like their mothers personally.
"Every time some famous man is on display with his White woman, a lot of my friends will have something negative to say or something that seems like they feel betrayed, as if that man is a representation of all Black men," Brooks says.
Thankfully, she has armed herself with the data that more than 70 percent of Black men are married to Black women.
It's complicated Toya Lachon, 43, of Washington, D.
C., says she feels frustrated, hurt and even betrayed when she sees Black men with women of other races, but happy when she sees Black women in an interracial relationship."I'm like, Yes, girl, do that," says Lachon. Women are taking control of their happiness."Dating interracially can still come with backlash for both Black men and women.
My struggles as a Black woman leading a legal department of a multistate corporation have just gone away? "It was almost like they treated it as if I had switched sides, and I was no longer down for the cause because I married a White guy. It's also not fair to him."Initially a few members of Michael's family were not supportive of the relationship.
"He told his family, "I am marrying this woman, so either you're on board or you're going to have to watch from the sidelines,"" says Meador.
He chose to live in California because he feels the state is more accepting of interracial couples and wants his kids to grow up in a diverse environment.
America's racist history of enslaving Black people and perpetuating a stereotype that Blacks are inferior still impacts our relationships and community.
I do think there is someone out there for everyone," says the father of two.